If you don’t have what/whom you love, love what/whom you have

Is it settling? I certainly don’t mean that in a negative way, as people get weary with the term settling, as if it’s the poignant way to say ‘accepting that we’re a loser and must contend with a life that, well, sucks’.

There’s a reason why they call it comfort zone. Because it brings you comfort as you are in your element. Is it such a bad thing to stay in it? Change is inevitable and I believe we are equipped to deal with changes and adapt. When everything changes, it is a good thing to maintain your balance. Do what’s right to feel comfortable and try to be happy.

Since my last post, there have been some changes in my life. I may have lost or alienated once a bestfriend of mine. Whilst I won’t dissect the details (please! I have class :p), let’s just say it is for my best interest that I put the distance between us. This person had been a part of my life for a little longer than my other best friends from different phases of my life. Maybe that’s why I forgot that sooner or later this friendship would take another form. Life (or death) always gets in the way. As I’m silently saying goodbye to what had been a good time of my life, I’m actually pretty fine and I find comfort in my new friends. Sure, one day I may be irrelevant to them (and vice versa), but until that day comes, I will cherish them and enjoy their company.

I also enjoy my company more, as I grow accustomed to finding myself alone. And I learn to love myself with all my flaws and quirks. That’s very important. As people come and go, you could not afford to hate the one person left: yourself.


5 Good Reasons to Go to Movies Alone


This week I watched 2 movies, The Chronicles of Narnia: The Prince Caspian and Indiana Jones: The Kingdom of Crystal Skull. I watched them alone. Maybe you’ll raise your eyebrows but let me prove that it is not a bad idea ๐Ÿ™‚

1. You don’t have to adjust your schedule with others.

It happens every time I want to go to movies. “Hey, let’s watch Narnia”, I said. My friend replied, “Not today, I’m busy. What about tomorrow evening?” I smiled and said “Tomorrow I’ll go home late from work. We can still have the 9 PM movie. Are you ok?” She rolled her eyes and gave me a big grin. Ok, she couldn’t go. I could go over and over with other friends on my list. But I didn’t want to waste my phone credits to call them one by one. It is ‘tanggal tua’ man!

2. You don’t have to argue as to which movie to watch.

You want to watch THE movie but your friend/spouse suggest another. It would be such a waste of time and money to watch two movies. And sometimes you don’t want to compromise. What can you do? Just split and watch your respective choice. You can reunite later and tell each other how great your movie was.

3. You won’t be distracted by your friend.

Ahhh..I hate this. I have one very excited friend and I was like ‘d’ooohhh’ when I watched a movie with her. She laughed too often, commented at every single scene, asked a lot when she didn’t get it. I replied “Don’t ask me. Just watch and you’ll understand it better”. Gosh, what a nuisance!

4. You don’t have to fight your tears.

I can be very emotional when I watch a drama (on screen and in real life :D). I barely cry in front of others because I think it is embarrassing. It is so damn hard to do when you watch a very sad scene. I was crying once and my friend next to me laughed at me! She even stated on my FS page that I am emotionally unstable! I could cry and laugh at the same time watching a movie. Well, I know that may sound bizarre. The next time I go for a high-rated drama, I’d go alone. Surely I don’t want my friends to watch me instead of the movie ๐Ÿ˜›

5. You don’t have to ruin your diet.

When we go to movies in group it is more likely that we buy popcorn/nachos and sugary carbonated drinks. I don’t know why but it just makes perfectly sense. Even when I am sober (of my diet) and try to avoid the snack bar, my friends will offer me their popcorn and drink. And they will make fun of me when I say “No, thanks. I’m on a diet”. Please friends…can you please support me with my diet plan. I’m single and I need to lose weight to get back on market ๐Ÿ˜› The solution is: go alone. You won’t think of popcorn because it is not fun to eat it yourself, right? ๐Ÿ™‚

Of course, it would feel funny the first time you walk to the ticket counter. She most likely will count you for two. That’s when you have to say “No, I just buy one ticket”. That is the most difficult time as self-pity may sneak in and you feel like a total dork. Get over it and you will be just fine. Enjoy the movie!