Joshua Radin – I’d Rather Be With You

Another great song from Scrubs. Mr. Zach Braff has a good taste 🙂

Anyway I think any girls would agree with me that any men proposing with this song have 50% higher chance of getting a ‘yes’. Hehehe…

Lyrics

Sitting here, on this lonely dock
Watch the rain play on the ocean top
All the things I feel I need to say
I can’t explain in any other way

I need to be bold
Need to jump in the cold water
Need to grow older with a girl like you
Finally see you are naturally
The one to make it so easy
When you show me the truth
Yeah, I’d rather be with you
Say you want the same thing too

Now here’s the sun, come to dry the rain
Warm my shoulders and relieve my pain
You’re the one thing that I’m missing here
With you beside me I no longer fear

I need to be bold
Need to jump in the cold water
Need to grow older with a girl like you
Finally see you are naturally
The one to make it so easy
When you show me the truth
Yeah, I’d rather be with you
Say you want the same thing too

I could have saved so much time for us
Had I seen the way to get to where I am today
You waited on me for so long
So now, listen to me say:

I need to be bold
Need to jump in the cold water
Need to grow older with a girl like you
Finally see you are naturally
The one to make it so easy
When you show me the truth
Yeah, I’d rather be with you
Say you want the same thing too
Say you feel the way I do

Whenever You Call

[verse 1]
Love wondered inside
Stronger than you
Stronger than I
And now that it has begun
We cannot turn back
We can only turn into one

[chorus]
I won’t ever be too
Far away to feel you
And I won’t hesitate at all
Whenever you call
And I’ll always remember
The part of you so tender
I’ll be the one to catch your fall
Whenever you call

[verse 2]
And I’m truly inspired
Finding my soul there in your eyes
And you have opened my heart
And lifted me inside
By showing me yourself, undisguised

[chorus]
I won’t ever be too
Far away to feel you
And I won’t hesitate at all
Whenever you call
And I’ll always remember
The part of you so tender
I’ll be the one to catch your fall
Whenever you call

[bridge]
And I will breathe for you each day
Comfort you through all the pain
Gently kiss your fears away
You can turn to me and cry
Always understand that I
Give you all I have inside

[chorus]
I won’t ever be too
Far away to feel you
And I won’t hesitate at all
Whenever you call
I won’t ever
Be too far to feel you
And I’ll always remember
The part of you so tender
And be the one to catch your fall
Whenever you call
Whenever you call
Whenever you call

Fountains of Wayne – Hey Julie

Knew this song from Scrubs from those episodes in Season 5 when JD dated Julie (Mandy Moore). It stucks in my head even though the cute couple only lasted for 3 episodes or so!

(How did it come to be
That you and I must be
Far away from each other every day?
Why must I spend my time
Filling up my mind
With facts and figures that never add up anyway?
They never add up anyway)

so sad he’ll be going for 4 days and not come back until Tuesday 😦

I’ll be surely missing our night chat and call 😦

Lyrics

Working all day for a mean little man
With a clip-on tie and a rub-on tan
He’s got me running ’round the office like a dog around a track
But when I get home,
You’re always there to rub my back

Hey Julie,
Look what they’re doing to me
Trying to trip me up
Trying to wear me down
Julie, I swear, it’s so hard to bear it
And I’d never make it through without you around

Hours on the phone making pointless calls
I got a desk full of papers that means nothing at all
Sometimes I catch myself staring into space
Counting down the hours ’til I get to see your face

Hey Julie,
Look what they’re doing to me
Trying to trip me up
Trying to wear me down
Julie, I swear, it’s so hard to bear it
And I’d never make it through with out you around
No, I’d never make it through with out you around

[Bridge]
How did it come to be
That you and I must be
Far away from each other every day?
Why must I spend my time
Filling up my mind
With facts and figures that never add up anyway?
They never add up anyway

Working all day for a mean little guy
With a bad toupee and a soup-stained tie
He’s got me running ’round the office
Like a gerbil on a wheel
He can tell me what to do
But he can’t tell me what to feel

Hey Julie,
Look what they’re doing to me
Trying to trip me up
Trying to wear me down
Julie, I swear, it’s so hard to bear it
And I’d never make it through with out you around
No, I’d never make it through without you around
No, I’d never make it through with out you around

It’s Bliss

Sorry readers… I’m oficially love sick so buckle up for zillion love songs to be posted here by this sicko =))

Get your bucket if you feel like throwing up hahahahaha….

Alice Peacock with John Mayer – Bliss

Your touch is electric
I felt it the first time you held me
The way we connected
So easily
I’ve tried to define it
Searched for the perfect phrase
I’ve tried to describe it
In a million different ways

(Chorus)
It’s joy, it’s ecstasy, it’s truth it’s destiny
And even love is not enough
To tell you how you make me feel
There’s only one word for this

I’ve got to admit it
You took my heart by surprise
Don’t know how you did it
But baby, I’ve never felt so alive
I already know what the future holds
As long as you are here with me

It’s joy, it’s ecstasy, it’s truth, it’s destiny
To tell you how you make me feel
To say I love you is not enough

It’s faith, it’s honesty, it’s life, it’s everything
To say I love you is not enough
To tell you how you make me feel

It’s in your smile, it’s in your kiss
It’s the reason I exist
There’s only one word for this
It’s bliss

He’s Just NOT That Into You

Just finished watching ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’,  a movie based on a novel (which I have been nowhere near -luckily) starring Scarlett Johansson, Jen Aniston, Drew Barrymore, Jennifer Connelly, Ben Afleck, Morgan Lily and others. If you’re looking for self-assurance on what you have been doing dating-wise this is a perfect flick for you. Yes it is a chick flick 😀 So for guys with no sense of bravado and a guilty love for drama this too will work for you. I asked my dearest guy friend and he’s not even interested in watching it.  I was relieved to hear his response although he did pay for this DVD yesterday. I really don’t need a drag king right now, even more because I like this guy a lot 😉

So this movie begins with a scene of a young girl played with her sand castle when a boy came right in and told to her face that she reminded him of dog poo. The little girl cried and in an attempt to console her, her mom told her the biggest and legendary lie ever existed since the world’s creation: every time a man treats you like crap, it’s because he likes you! Apparently girls buy this crap and feed on the agony it creates.  So we have Gigi, who’s simply obsessed with a perfect dating scene and the aftermath: the sacred call from her date. Unlucky for her (which very much reminds me of myself) her perfect dates seem to end up in a round-about way. ‘Nice meeting you’ -> translation: You will never hear from me.

There are lots of other characters of course, each brings his/her own tragic misunderstanding and expectations towards love. There’s Anna who is torn apart between a sexy married guy (a.k.a the douche bag), Ben and her straightforward, no-sparks standby, Conor. Oh and by the way Conor is one of the guys who didn’t call Gigi after their date.  Ben is the husband of Janine, Gigi’s colleague and confidante. There’s also Mary, an ad sales who is surrounding by good looking and supportive men who are unfortunately gay 😛 Mary has problem finding a date in a real world and she turns to online sites (which also reminds me of myself who fell for 3 guys I chatted with). Oh and how can I forget Beth (played by Jen Aniston) and Neil who have a steady 7-year-old-committed-unmarried life. The last straw comes when Beth’s baby sister is getting married. Beth starts to get anxious, blackmails Neil to marry her and ends up breaking up with him.

Trust me, it’s not that complicated when you watch the movie yourself! I’m not gonna be a rotten spoiler I usually am (haha!) and will not tell you the ending. I will, however,  give you several quotes from the movie which I played countless times in my head 😀

Gigi: We are all programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk that means he likes you.

Alex: So trust me when I say if a guy is treating you like he doesn’t give a shit, he genuinely doesn’t give a shit. No exceptions.

Gigi: So what now I’m just supposed to turn from every guy who doesn’t like me?
Alex: Uh. Yeah!
Gigi: There’s not gonna be anybody left. (she’s so freaking honest hahahahaha….)

Mary: I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. (touche! Thank God my dearest guy friend doesn’t have account in any of the social networking sites. We can simply talk on the phone, chat and hold hands when we meet. Classic 😛 )

Gigi: I would rather be like that, then be like you.
Alex: Excuse me? What’s that supposed to mean?
Gigi: I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You’ve think you won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don’t fall in love that way either. You have not won. You’re alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I’m still a lot closer to love than you are. (no comment on this. I believe that hen you meet the right guy, everything should feel easy. You don’t have to worry if you should call him or wait for his calls. None of it matters. Sometimes he calls first, other times you leave simple cute messages on his mobile. You don’t have to go extra mile just to know if he feels the same.)

Gigi: Sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. how to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don’t, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. maybe the happy ending is just moving on. or maybe the happy ending is this: knowing after all the unreturned phone calls and broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment… you never gave up hope. (hope to simply wake up one day,  smile at the reflection of yourself in the mirror and not wondering if you’re worth-loving)

My personal advice is  don’t give him any presents if you’re not sure he likes you. Save all the drama okay? Picking gifts can be emotionally exhausting, thinking ‘Does he like it?’, ‘Does he prefer that to this?’, ‘What kind of guy he is?’ and then the card-writing part. Then the crucial part when you give him the gift. D’ooohhhhh… it’s just too much! And when things don’t quite work out for you two, you will be traumatized by the whole experience. It leaves you a big scar. Just like a friend of mine who admitted that she is too tired to make the moves now with someone new, after years of failed attempts to win someone’s heart. And of course me, who acted cool and non-chalant until finally I couldn’t take it anymore. It hurts, giving something (along with your heart) to someone only to witness it be shattered into pieces. Rose Kennedy once said “It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it is never gone.”

Anyhoo, I gave my dearest guy friend a strawberry cheese cake instead of a birthday present. Afterall I thought to myself, if he doesn’t like it I can eat it myself  (which luckily was not the case) 😉



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These are some interesting feedback I got from my blog viewers. Thanks to everyone who actually takes  some time to visit my blog and kind enough to leave me some thoughts.

zurriuss on Before Sunrise and Before Sunset (part une):

After watching both movies I was thinking of the plot for an hour. It was so real. I even thought that there was no script at all. Of course there are some passages which you’ve mentioned that makes “drama” in both films. But in general both movies made me think about myself and about unexpected occasions or sircusmstances that we might face with. I think there could be lots of such sircumstances. All we need is just to be careful to find them ;)

My comment:

The plot is so natural and flows so gracefully ;)
Just by reading the taglines makes you think of your own opportunities! I agree with you, it’s very possible to find someone you can connect with and feel the magic in an instant. Turning it into a workable relationship is completely another matter!
But personally I keep believing that someday somewhere (not necessarily on a Eurotrain haha..) I will meet him. And I hope things would not be so complicated for both of jus. And that we may work things out. Fingers crossed please ;)

Sari on Rebel Without A Cause:

Hi Fenny, do you still remember me? We meet at Edlink-Bandung. I am one of your blogs fans, member of FFC (Fenny Fans Club) :) I used to do anything opposite my parents expectation. There is personal satisfaction in my heart if I could do that. I want to make them to have believe in me, that I could do the ‘right’ thing. That anything I do would not hurt them, and reduce my respect to them. So, there is a lot fights, ha5. I just said to them, ‘Please, could you trust me in ev’ry thing I do, then you would not be dissapointed, I will make you proud of me’.

My comment:

Halo Sari!

Hell yeah… I still remember you T_T… hahahahaha…

Fenny Fans Club sounds too grandeur =))
So sweet of u to say such nice things though.. *blushing*

You’re such a strong girl to be able to raise your case at such a young age. I believe it works for your character-building and contributing to the person you are now: a beautiful girl with principle ;)
Hope all of us will make our parents proud. Well if not now, later :P hehehehe…

Arie Wicaksana on Rebel Without A Cause:

Hoi…maybe i can’t read a english structure very good..but now i can give a comment with indonesian languange..merdeka…

Ya..terkadang kita memang sulit untuk mengerti apa yang mereka mau dari hidup kita.seakan-akan kita diatur ini itu.padahal kita udah cukup dewasa untuk mengambil suatu keputusan tentang hidup kita.

ak pernah dibilangin sama seseorang..dalam hidup ketika kita sudah merasa bisa mengambil keputusan berdasarkan pandangan kita. justru saat itulah menunjukan bahwa kita egois. tidak belajar untuk melihat segala sesuatu dari berbagai sisi.. terkadang orang tua mengingatkan kita untuk melakukan ini itu untuk membantu kita agar kita tetap berjalan pada jalan yang benar. tidak ada orang tua yang ingin anaknya berjalan dalam ketidak pastian. bagaimanapun mereka orang tua yang lebih banyak pengalaman dengan dunia yang tidak pernah bersahabat. sooo saran ku..ketika orang tua berkata tidak atas keputusan kita, pertama renungkanlah apa maksud dari semua itu..kemudian cari bukti ketika kamu merasa bahwa orang tuamu salah buktikan dengan cara yang hormat dan sopan. tapi ketika kamu sadar bahwa orangtuamu bersikap benar berterimakasihlah…

My comment:

Iya bener, sebagai anak memang harus menghormati orang tuanya. Tapi sebagai orangtua juga harus menyadari bahwa anak adalah individu yang berbeda dari dirinya. Anakmu bukanlah milikmu :)

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They came through you but not from you and though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
(Kahlil Gibran)

Arie Wicaksana on My Answer:

bagus kata2nya…cuma sedikit komen saja…
Terkadang manusia tidak sadar kalo orang yang ditunggu itu sebenarnya sudah ada di depan dia dan terkadang dia terlalu disibukkan oleh urusan kerjaannya…
tapi memang lebih baik menunggu yang pasti dengan harapan hal itu tentu menjadi lebih baik.

My comment:

Dalam penantian hanya ada satu yang pasti… kepastian bahwa nurani tidak akan terkhianati, dan tak ada seorang pun yang pantas disakiti.

Di luar itu, biarkan semuanya menjadi misteri Illahi. Apakah itu kesempatan? Atau pilihan? :)

Thanks Arie… postnya bagus deh ;)
http://a12ie.blogspot.com/2009/01/kesempatan-vs-pilihan.html

Kristin on Platonic Love:

I truly believe in Platonic love. I have a best guy friend whom I can sleep next to without anything happening sexually, or even the thought coming up. He is like a brother to me and we talk about relationships, men/women, love, family, friendship, sports and anything which comes to mind. We have been on vacation together twice and nothing has happened, nor will it. I love him and I always will. Will I wonder? Maybe. Has the thought crossed his mind? Possibly. But it’s love none-the-less. Love is unconditionally being there for someone through thick and thin, feeling for someone through ups and down, accepting faults and applauding triumphs, rolling with the punches and accepting change. It has nothing to do with kissing….that is just an added bonus that the one you love and want to spend your life with can share with you.

My comment:

‘He is like a brother to me’ seems to suggest that what you have is familial affection ;) But yes, I agree with your point that it’s love none-the-less, although in broader term. Personally, I can’t imagine spending my life with someone whom I share everything but my bed. But again, you’re one lucky gal Kristin to have such a special best friend :)

DED on Platonic Love:

fennyChandra, thank you so much… I have been struggling with the type of love I feel for this friend of mine. I am still struggling, but please tell me is it truly possible to develop a platonic love for someone that you were in love with? This is so very interesting…I have a friend and were each others first love (18 years ago). He is married for 15 years now and I have been married for 9 years now. I broke up with him because of his imaturity and trust issues all those years ago. Back then we both truly thought we were going to be together… around his wedding he came to me, but I was not there to see if we had a chance all those years ago. and then on several occastions over the years he tried to reach out to me, but I was still very hurt. After all these years neither one of us ever stopped thinking about the other one. I have finally made piece with the pain he caused me, and we have become the closest of friends. I want to maintain our friendship but there is alot of sexual tension, and neither of us want/will cross that line. We know that the ramifications are just to seviere. We are the best of friends, we discuss eveything and enjoy our conversations, we inspire each other. Please understand that I have a happy marriage; I truly love my wonderful husband an he loves his wife. Our friends who knew about us are very suspicious of our friendship. But we both agreed that we would prefer to have our friendship than distroy our families for the sexual part…So again, is it possible to develop a platonic love for someone you were in love with?

My comment:

It’s not platonic if you still feel any kind of sexual tension with him. Only the situation justifies the ‘platonic’ state. He might be your true love and sadly, he’s also the one that got away. Instead of wondering if he feels the same way, you both already know your feelings for each other. And you too choose not to cross the line of friendship. That’s one brave and altruistic decision. Because you both know that you will not be happy at the expense of your family. Maybe over time, you will overcome this romantic passion for each other and be content with platonic friendship. Maybe not. So I personally think you should stop before someone gets hurt (can be you, him or your spouse). Because nothing hurts you more than knowing that the person spending his/her life with you has been in love with someone else.

Wippie on Frustrating Image:

wakaakakkkaaa..ur so right! It does explains all. Gee..why are ur post now have a series of depressive-single-love sceptical kind of genre???..

U know, sumtimes when ur soooooo sceptical, it means that ur a classic romantic–cinderella waiting for his prince charming–type of person..:D:D:D:D

Even THE Carrie Bradshaw, the ideal single-success-loving life–stereotype eventually married her prince charming…:) (although she got back stabbed during the process) but halooo she’s married..wooohooo!!

u’ll get there Fen…and when the time is urs, u’ll eventually shine:)

My comment:

I’m just exaggerating :) )
It’s fun to write this stuff now as I’m single because when I finally meet the right guy, none of this talk would make sense!
And no, I’m not a romantic Cinderella. I buy my own shoes :P

Harshad Joshi on It’s Simple:

I dont think love is that simple…

My comment:

Love is simple when you see it as it is…
Take out the drama, hesitations, and expectations. You’ll get love :)

I just realized I write and write about love and know very little about it 😛 Maybe it’s not something you can comprehend, maybe it’s the extremes of madness and despair…or a little space in between 🙂

Stay in touch okay 😉 Keep the feedback juice flowing !

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