Yesterday I went to Gramedia, read a bit of this, a bit of that for free 😛
I found a leaflet for a new novel.
There’s a quote there “Mencintai dan dicintai adalah hal yang sangat sederhana. Jauh lebih sederhana daripada berusaha membuat orang yang kita cintai mencintai kita ataupun berusaha mencintai orang yang tidak kita cintai.” (To love and be loved is very simple. It’s much more simple than trying to make the one we love, love us in return or trying to love the one we don’t love).
Touche. It hit me to the core.
That’s exactly the root of all my relationship problems. I try too hard.
I try too hard to understand him.
I try too hard to make him happy.
I try too hard to find my way to him.
I try too hard to make him realize that I’m THE ONE.
Don’t get me wrong. I’ve been to the other side too. I tried to love a very nice guy who loved me deeply. I tried and I tried but I just couldn’t do it. I broke his heart, I said goodbye. He returned everything I gave him in mail, saying that he would not disturb me again.
Don’t worry. He’s all good and alive. He’s married now 🙂
And me? Still have the most to learn. This is my newly-grasped knowledge: love is simple.