Quality vs Quantity
Anyone can enlighten me about what ‘quality time’ means?
No thanks! I put up listening to his shit everyday. I don't need to see it.
Frankly, I have no idea. Because I do lots of things (disturbing details will be elaborated *mind you for those with faint heart*) in desperate attempt to reserve the right to be happy despite endless chores and work-related stress but I don’t quite enjoy the moment.
Exhibit A:
Fenny was having a body scrub slash massage in a comfy quiet salon. What raced through her mind was how much time she got left before she ought to start making the mission report of the two meetings concluded two days before. She pictured the skeleton of the report and which part should go where in the structure. She thought of the best diction and terms which can be used for the report. In the middle of her ‘fanciful’ imagination, her masseuse said “Turn around”. Now she was laying half-naked, looking to the ceiling and asked herself: What the fuck happened with my quality time pampering in the salon?
Now, please correct me if I got this whole idea wrong. Quality time, is supposed to be the best moment you cherish and make use of, regardless of how little time you have. Well, I know precisely when I should have fun. I understand one should have a balanced life and a quote-unquote ‘real’ life to live on, hence the need for some personal time off work. But everytime I go out there (to live my life) I end up contemplating about my work, career, possibilities, challenges, scenarios, next to-do-list, and so on and so forth.
Exhibit B:
Cozy time with girlfriends turned into some intense time for each of us bitching about our boss (and may I share with you that my ex boss is matter-of-factly far from terrible? I am grateful for this revelation. Somebody else’s boss is much worse than mine. Hip hip hooray!).
At times I have quantity time as well. With plenty of time I have, I don’t have to think so much in advance how the best to spend it. Sometimes I sleep and sleep for 14 hours straight, only to wake up because I am hungry. Then I get something to eat, watch some gossip on TV or movie/tv series I download a night before. Then I text my neighbor: mau ke PIM ga 
(to which the answer is mostly yes). To sum up: I don’t arrange anything special with those quantity time. I end up feeling so bored, uninspired, useless, smelly (because I often don’t shower for two days -at times three if I ‘forget’ to shower on Friday) and guilt-ladden. What kind of a responsible adult I am for not having an impressive weekend?
But on the second thought, I now believe that quantity time is better than quality time, at least for my well-being and peace of mind.
Exhibit C:
Fenny was having a weekend-getaway in Bandung with two close friends. They went back to hotel late at night (don’t worry, they were totally sober) after a fun night out of shopping, dinner, supper, and a great laugh at those singing guys-with-extremely-passionate-’cengkok melayu’-although-they-can’t-reach-the-high-notes of Armada’s Buka Hatimu. She went to bed with a smile. The next morning she got up with a puzzled mind. She had a very vivid dream of work-stuff she even remembered in details the task she was given with (in her dream). So much for quality time in Bandung, eh?
Now I don’t buy the concept of quality vs quantity time. Time is volatile. You just fool yourself if you think you own the time or control it. A good time is a good time. It doesn’t mater whether you have carefully planned it or you just happen to be a part of it. The harder you try to make the time yours, the harder it is for you to enjoy it. Enough with the wisdom, now can anyone tell me how to stop having dreams about work??? (and of course, I’d like to keep my job so don’t tell me to quit :p)
Avalanche
October 31, 2009 
Everybody has his or her avalanche some times. I’m having it. And I will be having it until December when the ASEAN-India Working Group wraps up. Hopefully it will be held one day only on the 3rd, because otherwise I will have to celebrate my birthday with all those foreign people I call Excellencies :p
So that’s my new job. I’ve been very productive for the last 3 weeks. I get up early, arrive work by 9 (because I can’t make others have my finger no matter good a witch (or bitch) I am), work (less chatting and facebooking), drink more coffee, leave work at 7 or so, socialize when I need to, go home and check my e-mail and work accordingly, get some sleep, dream about work, get up and here we go again.
So this is my 3rd weekend and the first one I have money 
) And what is my idea of a perfect weekend? Making it productive. Sleep! I’ve been having too much sleep my head spins. I’ve watched the latest Desperate Housewives and Supernatural I downloaded. And now what? Reading some background paper on potential ASEAN-UNESCO cooperation, probably. That’s why I call it avalanche. I risk myself buried all the way. If you pity me, please don’t. Just get me a date. A good one, please.
Michael Buble – Haven’t Met You Yet
October 20, 2009 
I’m Not Surprised
Not Everything Lasts
I’ve Broken My Heart So Many Times,
I Stop Keeping Track.
Talk Myself In
I Talk Myself Out
I Get All Worked Up
And Then I Let Myself Down.
I Tried So Very Hard Not To Loose It
I Came Up With A Million Excuses
I Thought I Thought Of Every Possibility
And I Know Someday That It’ll All Turn Out
You’ll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid That I’ll Give So Much More Than I Get
I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
Mmmmm ….
I Might Have To Wait
I’ll Never Give Up
I Guess It’s Half Timing
And The Other Half’s Luck
Wherever You Are
Whenever It’s Right
You Come Out Of Nowhere And Into My Life
And I Know That We Can Be So Amazing
And Baby Your Love Is Gonna Change Me
And Now I Can See Every Possibility
Mmmmm ……
And Somehow I Know That It Will All Turn Out
And You’ll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid I’ll Give So Much More Than I Get
I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
They Say All’s Fair
And In Love And War
But I Won’t Need To Fight It
We’ll Get It Right
And We’ll Be United
And I Know That We Can Be So Amazing
And Being In Your Life Is Gonna Change Me
And Now I Can See Every Single Possibility
Mmmm …..
And Someday I Know It’ll All Turn Out
And I’ll Work To Work It Out
Promise You Kid I’ll Give More Than I Get
Than I Get Than I Get Than I Get
Oh You Know It’ll All Turn Out
And You’ll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
And I Promise You Kid To Give So Much More Than I Get
Yeah I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
Oh Promise You Kid
To Give So Much More Than I Get
I Said Love Love Love Love Love Love Love …..
I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
Love Love Love …..
I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
For those ‘happy and looking’ singles out there
Who says I’m always sarcastic about love? And I’m now hopeful not because I just got a handsome (although a pain in the ass) boss! Mmmm… what are the odds he might google me and find this blog? Hahahaha…
HTS
October 18, 2009
Filed under Ups and downs
Tags: commitment, friends with benefit, friendship with the opposite sex, HTS, open relationship
Hare geneee HTS-an? That’s what I thought when I heard that word. HTS (Hubungan Tanpa Status) or friends with benefit, open relationship or whatever you call it is not a relationship. At least in my dictionary. It’s not a relationship if one party keeps guessing, wondering where this is going. And it sucks if the other party thinks it’s normal if they sometimes share intimate moments such as holding hands, hugging, gazing at each other. Well, define ‘normal’. And define ‘intimate’. OMG, this is exhausting, right?
For you who are in a HTS and feels happy, I can only say, be honest with your feelings. And stop asking questions. Because when those questions start to pour, you’re done. You will ask him those questions and you’ll end up beat and depressed (more likely). Just enjoy the ride, avoid risky conversations about love, relationship and commitment. And don’t expect too much from him. If he can see you today, that’s good. If he can’t, that’s even better. It serves as a reminder that he’s not your boyfriend and you can’t expect anything from him.
Last but not least, don’t kiss! You can hug him, lean on his shoulder, sleep in his bed (or vice versa), touch him affectionately, call him ‘dear’, ’sweetie’, ‘hunny’. But don’t kiss (and forget the first base, second base and so on). You don’t get to the first base. Remember, you don’t even share the field!
Dos and Don’ts in Public Swimming Pools
If you swim in a private swimming pool, please excuse yourself and refrain from reading the rest of this crap because truth be told, it’s not relevant to you.
This is for those who are not fortunate enough to have access to private swimming pool. If you are doing what is mentioned in don’ts list, please don’t do it in Senayan City Apartment pool. Why? Because I swim there. Please don’t make me sick.
Do’s:
1) Wear a nice and normal bathing suit (for guys: swimming pant)
Why? Because people can see underwater. And the least they want to see is your white brief hanging loosely, leaving little for imagination. I know you got balls (hehe) to wear it. It’s disgusting, you know? You probably have worn it for hours before you take it into the water. Ick!
2) Know how to swim
I think they should put a sign “NO NEWBIES ALLOWED. GET BACK HERE WHEN YOU”RE READY” in every public swimming pool. Why? No use to put yourself in danger in the presence of strangers. Chances are you will learn more effectively if you learn somewhere quiet. Try your friend’s private swimming pool. Or Sunter Lake, perhaps?
3) Swim
It’s annoying to see those who just stand against the wall in the pool and chat. Or make out(!). Can’t you do it up there? Dry and all? It would be more interesting to see you skinny dipping 
4) Wear goggles
Don’t hurt your eyes. It’s a public swimming pool. They don’t fill it with gazillions gallons of Evian. Trust me. Even if you are wearing contacts, there is a strong chance one or two of them will pop out and join the H2O.
Don’ts:
1) Wear a tube top
I wore it once and it turned out it slipped easily as I moved underwater. One should not be in a position to choose between one thing they like to do (and come to do) -swim- and another thing they secretly like to do -flaunt certain body parts riskily. And it’s not fun, swimming with your one hand holding your top. Making you look like a single-handed kodok.
2) Take other’s lane who came before you or swim the width of the pool
Why? It’s impolite. Everybody wants to swim in the inner side of the pool, I know. But the one who gets there first, deserves it. Wait until they finish and you can take their lane. And.. swimming the width of the pool… what are you? A third grader? It interrupts others’ perfect swimming laps. And, it makes you look stupid.
3) Take pictures while you’re in the pool
I saw two guys (or gay) one afternoon. They didn’t swim. One of them was in the pool and another was at the side, taking pictures of the first guy. The first guy is certainly a narcissist, showing off his muscles in an awfully provocative manner with that ’senyum mesum’ on his face. Look, I have nothing against homosexuals. But please do it somewhere else? Especially not in my lane!
4) Socialize
I got it like once or twice so far. When I was taking a short break, a guy next to me asked me my name and introduced himself. Have you heard, swimming pool is the new coffee shop? I haven’t. Nobody has. Don’t start the hype. PLEASE!
5) Pee
It’s been said a lot and yet people do it I know how much we love the sensation (I did it when I was a kid) of feeling the warmth coming out of us but for hygienic purpose, please don’t do it. You or others can get UTI, for starters. Or diarrhea if someone accidentally drinks it (it happens even to the best of us 
). Well, you can fart Hell yeah I do it often Making bubbles heehee…
Have more things to add to the list? Please feel free to do so
Curhat Colongan
I don’t care if I sound needy or clingy, I’m gonna say it out loud: I need you to show me that you need me.
Why is it so hard for you to realize it?
I’m not gonna stand here, waiting for you. Things will not always be the same.
I’ll move on to another guy.
The one who will accept me and give me what I need.
…..hot dogs.
(background: me waiting at a hot dog stand while I was apparently invisible. For God’s sake, I’m not homeless begging for food to survive. I got money and I can buy all you’ve got. Just so you know: YOU”RE NOT THE ONLY HOT DOG STAND IN THE UNIVERSE!)
Joshua Radin – I’d Rather Be With You
Another great song from Scrubs. Mr. Zach Braff has a good taste
Anyway I think any girls would agree with me that any men proposing with this song have 50% higher chance of getting a ‘yes’. Hehehe…
Lyrics
Sitting here, on this lonely dock
Watch the rain play on the ocean top
All the things I feel I need to say
I can’t explain in any other way
I need to be bold
Need to jump in the cold water
Need to grow older with a girl like you
Finally see you are naturally
The one to make it so easy
When you show me the truth
Yeah, I’d rather be with you
Say you want the same thing too
Now here’s the sun, come to dry the rain
Warm my shoulders and relieve my pain
You’re the one thing that I’m missing here
With you beside me I no longer fear
I need to be bold
Need to jump in the cold water
Need to grow older with a girl like you
Finally see you are naturally
The one to make it so easy
When you show me the truth
Yeah, I’d rather be with you
Say you want the same thing too
I could have saved so much time for us
Had I seen the way to get to where I am today
You waited on me for so long
So now, listen to me say:
I need to be bold
Need to jump in the cold water
Need to grow older with a girl like you
Finally see you are naturally
The one to make it so easy
When you show me the truth
Yeah, I’d rather be with you
Say you want the same thing too
Say you feel the way I do
Whenever You Call
[verse 1]
Love wondered inside
Stronger than you
Stronger than I
And now that it has begun
We cannot turn back
We can only turn into one
[chorus]
I won’t ever be too
Far away to feel you
And I won’t hesitate at all
Whenever you call
And I’ll always remember
The part of you so tender
I’ll be the one to catch your fall
Whenever you call
[verse 2]
And I’m truly inspired
Finding my soul there in your eyes
And you have opened my heart
And lifted me inside
By showing me yourself, undisguised
[chorus]
I won’t ever be too
Far away to feel you
And I won’t hesitate at all
Whenever you call
And I’ll always remember
The part of you so tender
I’ll be the one to catch your fall
Whenever you call
[bridge]
And I will breathe for you each day
Comfort you through all the pain
Gently kiss your fears away
You can turn to me and cry
Always understand that I
Give you all I have inside
[chorus]
I won’t ever be too
Far away to feel you
And I won’t hesitate at all
Whenever you call
I won’t ever
Be too far to feel you
And I’ll always remember
The part of you so tender
And be the one to catch your fall
Whenever you call
Whenever you call
Whenever you call
Fountains of Wayne – Hey Julie
Knew this song from Scrubs from those episodes in Season 5 when JD dated Julie (Mandy Moore). It stucks in my head even though the cute couple only lasted for 3 episodes or so!
(How did it come to be
That you and I must be
Far away from each other every day?
Why must I spend my time
Filling up my mind
With facts and figures that never add up anyway?
They never add up anyway)
so sad he’ll be going for 4 days and not come back until Tuesday 
I’ll be surely missing our night chat and call
Lyrics
Working all day for a mean little man
With a clip-on tie and a rub-on tan
He’s got me running ’round the office like a dog around a track
But when I get home,
You’re always there to rub my back
Hey Julie,
Look what they’re doing to me
Trying to trip me up
Trying to wear me down
Julie, I swear, it’s so hard to bear it
And I’d never make it through without you around
Hours on the phone making pointless calls
I got a desk full of papers that means nothing at all
Sometimes I catch myself staring into space
Counting down the hours ’til I get to see your face
Hey Julie,
Look what they’re doing to me
Trying to trip me up
Trying to wear me down
Julie, I swear, it’s so hard to bear it
And I’d never make it through with out you around
No, I’d never make it through with out you around
[Bridge]
How did it come to be
That you and I must be
Far away from each other every day?
Why must I spend my time
Filling up my mind
With facts and figures that never add up anyway?
They never add up anyway
Working all day for a mean little guy
With a bad toupee and a soup-stained tie
He’s got me running ’round the office
Like a gerbil on a wheel
He can tell me what to do
But he can’t tell me what to feel
Hey Julie,
Look what they’re doing to me
Trying to trip me up
Trying to wear me down
Julie, I swear, it’s so hard to bear it
And I’d never make it through with out you around
No, I’d never make it through without you around
No, I’d never make it through with out you around
It’s Bliss
Sorry readers… I’m oficially love sick so buckle up for zillion love songs to be posted here by this sicko =))
Get your bucket if you feel like throwing up hahahahaha….
Alice Peacock with John Mayer – Bliss
Your touch is electric
I felt it the first time you held me
The way we connected
So easily
I’ve tried to define it
Searched for the perfect phrase
I’ve tried to describe it
In a million different ways
(Chorus)
It’s joy, it’s ecstasy, it’s truth it’s destiny
And even love is not enough
To tell you how you make me feel
There’s only one word for this
I’ve got to admit it
You took my heart by surprise
Don’t know how you did it
But baby, I’ve never felt so alive
I already know what the future holds
As long as you are here with me
It’s joy, it’s ecstasy, it’s truth, it’s destiny
To tell you how you make me feel
To say I love you is not enough
It’s faith, it’s honesty, it’s life, it’s everything
To say I love you is not enough
To tell you how you make me feel
It’s in your smile, it’s in your kiss
It’s the reason I exist
There’s only one word for this
It’s bliss
